Happy Birthday C!....
I am going to only leave it at that. I think you have grown out of the Chubbs era... and the title now belongs to the little one.
I hope that you have a wonderful day. May it be filled with love and warm memories. Considering that I am only a "couple of months" older than you. I wish! I think as the oldest there are a few things that I can pass on to you.
1. Men never change, unless they feel the need to
2. The other girl is always more hideous
3. The other girl is always fatter
4. Men without jobs should only be booty calls!
5. The saying "its better to have love and lost" does NOT apply to us
6. The grass is never greener on the other side
7. Men are emotional creatures
8. We can always do better!
9. We should never settle!
10. God loves us all... no matter how bad the circumstances
11. A woman should always have enough money to be able to move out on her own. Even if she doesn't need or want to.
12. A woman should know how to fall in love without losing herself.
13. Every battle is not worth fighting
14. Embrace every emotion... good and bad
15. It can't always be good.
16. You are a blessing in disguise
17. You are a wonderful mother
18. You are a great woman
19. You are flawless even with all your flaws
20. You are one of the strongest woman I know
21. You are doing a great job in life... even if you don't think so
22. You are going to accomplish even more greatest than you already have
23. You are going to be free
24. You are always welcome and free to contact me... my door is always open
25. You are one of my greatest treasures
26. You are family
27. You are one FIERCE BAD BITCH and I love you for that!
Have a great day... and keep banging those heads up!!!!
February 25, 2009
February 24, 2009
The Audacity of Change
This morning was nothing short of a bitch vent. My girl and I spent the most part of a beautiful Tuesday morning bitching about the bitches that we call men in our lives. After hours of complaining and egging each other on, we spent a good 5 minutes debating what is the cause of this severe malfunction in the fools in our lives.
A couple of things I figured out through all this… They NEVER change. Granted people make mistakes, but if that mistake is made TWICE that is far beyond repair. If you know what’s good for you, you will high-tail it and run. I found myself in the same scenario 12 years later! How do I manage to find myself the girl left out in the cold again... because homeboy found a convenient girl who is cool to hang with and fighting with some other chick who claims that the baby is his... yes this may sound confusing and out there; but I will elaborate on this in the next blog. But bottomline... Same scenario 12 years later!
The independence of women has left a good percentage of these mofo’s helpless and lazy. Excuse after excuse to justify inactivity and not owening up to anything. I have a sac full of this, and most of the time I have men tell me that I should and can do it myself, or that they would want me to do it for them.
Example: "Buy me a plane ticket so I can come and see you" What IN the hell!?!? or "I didn't buy you a present because I know if you really want it you can get it yourself" Just plain rudeness. "Can you come over and check my car, and send it for an oil change, I will pay you later" Need I go on?
We women are silly and way too forgiving. Not all of us; but it’s usually women who give the benefit of a doubt and second chances. I know that if I was to play these ridiculous games and pan out ridiculous excuses; I would never live down that one mistake. A certain someone stills cry about a time when I threaten to throw him out of my moving vehicle and that was 3 years ago! I obviously didn’t do it, but I wish I did. Just the thought and me verbally expressing it makes me guilty and by far the most unforgiving thing I could have ever done.
It may seem cliche to say "man up" to these fools, because I think deep down they think they are doing absolutely nothing wrong. So I will like to say its time to "woman up" to not only the ladies but the men as well. Of course this is just wishful thinking. To actually have a man who can respect your boundaries and be as much of a companion and supporter as you would be, seems to be far-fetched these days. Maybe it's me... HA! No it's you!
I just have the audacity to believe that one day all this madness will end and it will make sense to us all.
A couple of things I figured out through all this… They NEVER change. Granted people make mistakes, but if that mistake is made TWICE that is far beyond repair. If you know what’s good for you, you will high-tail it and run. I found myself in the same scenario 12 years later! How do I manage to find myself the girl left out in the cold again... because homeboy found a convenient girl who is cool to hang with and fighting with some other chick who claims that the baby is his... yes this may sound confusing and out there; but I will elaborate on this in the next blog. But bottomline... Same scenario 12 years later!
The independence of women has left a good percentage of these mofo’s helpless and lazy. Excuse after excuse to justify inactivity and not owening up to anything. I have a sac full of this, and most of the time I have men tell me that I should and can do it myself, or that they would want me to do it for them.
Example: "Buy me a plane ticket so I can come and see you" What IN the hell!?!? or "I didn't buy you a present because I know if you really want it you can get it yourself" Just plain rudeness. "Can you come over and check my car, and send it for an oil change, I will pay you later" Need I go on?
We women are silly and way too forgiving. Not all of us; but it’s usually women who give the benefit of a doubt and second chances. I know that if I was to play these ridiculous games and pan out ridiculous excuses; I would never live down that one mistake. A certain someone stills cry about a time when I threaten to throw him out of my moving vehicle and that was 3 years ago! I obviously didn’t do it, but I wish I did. Just the thought and me verbally expressing it makes me guilty and by far the most unforgiving thing I could have ever done.
It may seem cliche to say "man up" to these fools, because I think deep down they think they are doing absolutely nothing wrong. So I will like to say its time to "woman up" to not only the ladies but the men as well. Of course this is just wishful thinking. To actually have a man who can respect your boundaries and be as much of a companion and supporter as you would be, seems to be far-fetched these days. Maybe it's me... HA! No it's you!
I just have the audacity to believe that one day all this madness will end and it will make sense to us all.
February 13, 2009
Expect Nothing
It has been a long while since I have had any form of motivation to do much, especially write.
But with the sun coming out today and my new sense of peace with myself, I thought a couple of notes would trigger what I hope will be an ongoing process.
There have been plenty of changes since my last post. So I will start off with 2009.
I rang in 2009 with a new place, freshly “officially” single, crazed, optimistic and having no expectations.
I decided that this year is going to be the year I start my new excursion to discover a life of no expectations and the uttermost fulfillment of the little joys in life.
I think I have always felt that way about many things in life, but I wanted to make it a part of my life. Every year January 1 has been a day of resolutions and hopeful promises. Which, like many others I forget soon after the euphoria the moment passes. I don’t really hold it against myself, but I can’t help but feel disappointed with my lack of discipline, to eat better, exercise, read more, help the needy, maintain my car, learn to play chess, or break any bad habits that I have been doing since childhood.
With joy I can honestly that up until this day I have owed up to my new mantra, and a life of no expectations has left me with ease.
It may not be for everyone… but I know myself well enough to cradle myself with precision and love. Knowing all the other self loving things will follow in due time.
But with the sun coming out today and my new sense of peace with myself, I thought a couple of notes would trigger what I hope will be an ongoing process.
There have been plenty of changes since my last post. So I will start off with 2009.
I rang in 2009 with a new place, freshly “officially” single, crazed, optimistic and having no expectations.
I decided that this year is going to be the year I start my new excursion to discover a life of no expectations and the uttermost fulfillment of the little joys in life.
I think I have always felt that way about many things in life, but I wanted to make it a part of my life. Every year January 1 has been a day of resolutions and hopeful promises. Which, like many others I forget soon after the euphoria the moment passes. I don’t really hold it against myself, but I can’t help but feel disappointed with my lack of discipline, to eat better, exercise, read more, help the needy, maintain my car, learn to play chess, or break any bad habits that I have been doing since childhood.
With joy I can honestly that up until this day I have owed up to my new mantra, and a life of no expectations has left me with ease.
It may not be for everyone… but I know myself well enough to cradle myself with precision and love. Knowing all the other self loving things will follow in due time.
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