The Audacity of Change

This morning was nothing short of a bitch vent. My girl and I spent the most part of a beautiful Tuesday morning bitching about the bitches that we call men in our lives. After hours of complaining and egging each other on, we spent a good 5 minutes debating what is the cause of this severe malfunction in the fools in our lives.

A couple of things I figured out through all this… They NEVER change. Granted people make mistakes, but if that mistake is made TWICE that is far beyond repair. If you know what’s good for you, you will high-tail it and run. I found myself in the same scenario 12 years later! How do I manage to find myself the girl left out in the cold again... because homeboy found a convenient girl who is cool to hang with and fighting with some other chick who claims that the baby is his... yes this may sound confusing and out there; but I will elaborate on this in the next blog. But bottomline... Same scenario 12 years later!

The independence of women has left a good percentage of these mofo’s helpless and lazy. Excuse after excuse to justify inactivity and not owening up to anything. I have a sac full of this, and most of the time I have men tell me that I should and can do it myself, or that they would want me to do it for them.

Example: "Buy me a plane ticket so I can come and see you" What IN the hell!?!? or "I didn't buy you a present because I know if you really want it you can get it yourself" Just plain rudeness. "Can you come over and check my car, and send it for an oil change, I will pay you later" Need I go on?

We women are silly and way too forgiving. Not all of us; but it’s usually women who give the benefit of a doubt and second chances. I know that if I was to play these ridiculous games and pan out ridiculous excuses; I would never live down that one mistake. A certain someone stills cry about a time when I threaten to throw him out of my moving vehicle and that was 3 years ago! I obviously didn’t do it, but I wish I did. Just the thought and me verbally expressing it makes me guilty and by far the most unforgiving thing I could have ever done.

It may seem cliche to say "man up" to these fools, because I think deep down they think they are doing absolutely nothing wrong. So I will like to say its time to "woman up" to not only the ladies but the men as well. Of course this is just wishful thinking. To actually have a man who can respect your boundaries and be as much of a companion and supporter as you would be, seems to be far-fetched these days. Maybe it's me... HA! No it's you!

I just have the audacity to believe that one day all this madness will end and it will make sense to us all.